Dispelling Shame

Shame is the ultimate culprit at the very root of almost every self-imposed problem.

What is shame?

A popular definition describes shame as: a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.

If …

Me, Madonna and God

Something’s been released in me: a certain type of confidence and self-assurance I’ve never had. 

Believe it or not, most of my life I’ve been downplaying myself and my desires, and I’ve not allowed myself to shine because of the …

Iboga: The Psychedelic Medicine That Healed My Coming-Out Trauma

Well, I did it. I underwent a week of disconnection from social media and the outside world and deep into a psycho-spiritual journey with a shaman and a psychedelic plant medicine. The only way I can describe the experience is …

TRUE(self)LOVE

There’s a saying in my recovery program that ‘faith without works is dead.’ There’s also instructions that remind us when we take a leap of faith, that it’s not enough to simply make the decision in our mind, rather it …

Homo/Phobia

My husband would playfully lift the squishy toy up and down, just out of grasp, as our little baby boy reached and giggled and squeaked. My husband, standing over the crib in his fitted blue t-shirt (he was always wearing …

It Wasn’t Too Late to Tell Me I Was Loved

Since I posted my last piece about Isolation of the Spirit, some wonderful things have happened.

Family and friends who didn’t at first accept my coming out (when I was 17) have messaged, commented and explained that they love …